Lifeforce Memorial Wall

My beautiful and much loved brother Michael took his life in January 2008, after a long and brave struggle with melancholic depression, coupled with episodes of debilitating anxiety. He was a gentle and loving soul and proud father of four wonderful children and two grandchildren, who were the lights of his life. Michael loved singing, dancing, music, working hard, had a great sense of humour and lived with honesty and integrity. He tried so hard to find peace and to protect his loved ones from the fallout of his despair. We all know you didn't want to hurt us.....it just got too hard to stay. Miss you so much darling, love Cathi x

Posted by Cathi Healy from Adelaide, SA on Sunday, November 09, 2008 00:57

daddy , im not mad at you. i just want you to know that you were a great father. you taught me so much about life. im sad that your gone . william looks just like you. its been a year and a half but its seems like a century. i miss your smile =] and your chipped tooth. i love you daddy ... and i'll always be your babygirl

Posted by alex from west palm beach florida on Friday, November 07, 2008 15:37

My husband was the 39-year old police officer and military veteran mentioned above. He took his life on October 2, 2008. He took my life with him. Everyday without him is empty. I miss him so much.

To my friend, my confidante, my lover, my hero and my soulmate .... you have ALL my love, ALL my life. I'm sorry I it wasn't enough to take your pain away. Your wife forever, Lori

Posted by Lori from Calgary, Alberta, Canada on Friday, November 07, 2008 15:07

Jordan I miss you so much. Why did you leave us?

Posted by Ranay from US on Sunday, October 19, 2008 12:54

In memory of my life, my love, my best friend, Brad. I am so sorry I couldnt have done more....I miss you forever. Prost!

Posted by J from Saskatchewan on Saturday, October 18, 2008 14:27

We lost our joy, our son Scotty on Nov 1st 07......he was creative, beautiful, funny,talented,amazing,incredible along with a completely wonderful nature, he was too sensitive, too unable to cope with getting mad or being sad. He covered it all. He was a magnet to be around, people were drawn to him, he was the connector in our lives. We will never be the same.
We miss you, and hundreds of your family members and your wonderful friends are still mystified at your death. It wasn't supposed to be this way. But we have to take what we have learned about the sadness you suffered, and kept to yourself, and we have to educate.........so many of us think that depression looks like it does in the commercials.......it can look a whole lot different from that , too.

Posted by Mary Peters from Wildomar,Ca. 92595 on Saturday, October 18, 2008 09:30

I lost my oldest son Matt to suicide. He was only 19 when he hung himself.
Matt I love you and miss you everyday.
You were my hero and I don't believe you ever really knew that.
Love Your mom

Posted by Susan Oliver from Virginia on Friday, October 17, 2008 10:48

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

My beautiful, wonderful brother - a police officer and military vet, dead at 39 with a self inflicted gun shot to the head. Not a clue, ever! of him being suicidal. 700 - 750 people, CPS and past miliary and public at the funeral. Still cannot believe his smiling face will never come round no more.

Facebook Group ''In memory of Police Const. Ernest Wayne Perry'' Feb. 5/69 to Oct. 2/08

Slideshow Presentation with music. Please look and share in my past proud moments of him.

Posted by Connie from Saskatchewan on Thursday, October 16, 2008 19:42

My handsome cowboy shot himself dead at Opium Creek Station NT. My son was loved, liked and always evoked a smile. Che was so bright but found life a challenge - in such a hurry to grow up but when he got there he didn't like it?? I love you my son, I miss you and I want you back.
Cowboy Up Che - Miss you much. Mummy xxx (to infinity and beyond ...)
Che Darius Purcell 3/5/1980 - 30/7/2000

Posted by Judith Selby from Canowindra NSW on Friday, October 10, 2008 19:35

James Hilton Stuart
19/02/67 - 08/10/05
May the good Lord be with you
Down every road you roam
And may sunshine and happiness surrond you when your far from home
And may you grow to be proud
Dignified and true
Be courageous and be brave
And in my heart you'll always stay
Forever Young
May good fortune be with you
May your guiding light be strong
Build a stairway to heaven
with a prince or a vagabond
Forever Young
But whatever road you choose
I'm behind you, win or lose
Forever Young Forever Young Forever Young

May the God Lord hold you in the palm of his hand.

Hugs and kisses until we meet again,
Bundles of love Mum, Dad and Suz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Buddy and Mimi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Posted by Cathy Stuart from Sydney on Thursday, October 09, 2008 14:05

Daddy killed himself on February 9, 2007. The day before his 66th birthday. I was supposed to drive to New Mexico to meet him for lunch. I wish he would have come to lunch and let us have a good time together at least one last time. I miss you, Daddy.

Posted by Kristin from Arizona on Thursday, October 09, 2008 10:01

I lost my precious son, Robert, on June 15, 2005. He was tall and slim, handsome, clever and newly married. He had so much to live for but sadly he suffered with a terrible insidious illness called melancholic depression. I believe, in a moment of despair, he took his life to rid himself of the terrible pain. I know how much he loved us, as we did him, and I know how much he wanted to live. He told me that he knew I understood how painful it was for him, and that helps me enormously. I would find it so hard to bear if he had felt I hadn't understood his distress. But, oh, how much I want him back. I miss his smile and hugs, his love and his just being there. I grieve for him, and I grieve for the loss of his potential. He remains so close in my heart because I will always love and miss him so very very much. Love you, Robert!.

Posted by Glenda Dean from Sydney on Friday, October 03, 2008 17:19

Carol Cadbury
My wish list


1 I wish you would not be afraid to speak my loved ones name they lived

And were important and I need to hear their name.

2 If I cry or get emotional if we talk about my loved one I wish you knew that it isnt because you hurt me the fact that they have died has caused my tears. You have allowed me to cry and I thank you. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.

3 I wish you wouldnt let my love die again by removing from your home his pictures or other remembrances.

4 I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs I wish you wouldnt think that if I had a good day my grief is all over, or that if I have a bad day I need psychiatric counseling.

5 Being a bereaved person is not contagious, so I wish you would stay away from me.

6 I wish that you knew all the crazy grief reactions that I am having are in fact very normal depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness and the questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following a death.

7 I wish you wouldnt expect my grief to be over in six months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for me. As with alcoholics I will never be cured or be formerly bereaved but forevermore be recovering from my bereavement.
8 I wish you would understand the physical reaction to grief. I may gain weight or lose weight sleep all the time or not at all, develop a host of illnesses and accident-prone all of which are related to grief.
9 My loved ones birthday, the anniversary of their death and the holidays are terrible times for me. I wish you could tell me that you are thinking about them on those days. And if I get quiet and withdrawn just know that im thinking about them and dont try to coerce me into being cheerful.
10 I wish you wouldnt offer to take me out for a drink or a party this is just a temporary crutch and only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have hurt before and I can heal.
11 I wish you would understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my beloved died and I will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to my old self you will stay frustrated. I am a new creature with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs. Please try to get to know the new me-maybe you will still like me

Posted by my wish list from sydney on Friday, October 03, 2008 13:35

BRENDEN JAMES WILCOX 23/05/84 to 30th/12/07




Let's dance in style, lets dance for a while
Heaven can wait we're only watching the skies
Hoping for the best but expecting the worst
Are you going to drop the bomb or not?

Let us die young or let us live forever
We don't have the power but we never say never
Sitting in a sandpit, life is a short trip
The music's for the sad men

Can you imagine when this race is won
Turn our golden faces into the sun
Praising our leaders we're getting in tune 47214321
The music's played by the mad men

Forever young, I want to be forever young
do you really want to live forever, forever and ever
Forever young, I want to be forever young
do you really want to live forever? Forever young

Some are like water, some are like the heat
Some are a melody and some are the beat
Sooner or later they all will be gone
why don't they stay young

It's so hard to get old without a cause
I don't want to perish like a fleeing horse
Youth's like diamonds in the sun
and diamonds are forever

So many adventures couldn't happen today
So many songs we forgot to play
So many dreams swinging out of the blue
We let them come true

Forever young, I want to be forever young
do you really want to live forever, forever and ever
Forever young, I want to be forever young
do you really want to live forever, forever and ever

Forever young, I want to be forever young
do you really want to live forever?

Posted by mum from sydney on Friday, October 03, 2008 06:02

I lost my brother Harry 7 years ago. Harry I hope your looking down and see us and know that we miss
you. I hope you have found peace up in heaven and I hope you are happy. I miss your visits and I miss visiting you in all the great places you have lived. I miss your pancakes and I miss having coffee with you. You were always busy working hard but you always had time for a coffee. I hope one day we all meet up in heaven, the only differents is that we will all be older and you still young. I hope you remember us, because we will never forget you and will always miss you. I hope you see my Harry and know that I had to have a little boy so I could name him after you so I could hear your name being said, Harry I miss you heaps things seem alot different now your not here. Love your sister Lee xxx

Posted by Lee Turner from Oatlands on Thursday, October 02, 2008 20:38

I lost my son Harry 7 years ago 13th july 2001 . Harry was 32 years old and i know when i listen to other people i was lucky to have him for 32 years but that dosnt make it any easier, even after 7 years it dosnt get any better just different, I wish i could have that last night over again but i cant ,so i just hope you are at peace and know how much we all love you . You will always be my only one. all my love mummy dearest

Posted by Harry Hardin Turner from Haberfield on Thursday, October 02, 2008 17:40

how do we cope without you.The family is broken.Nan is sick from it.Mum and dad are dying inside your brothers feel responible .How can we get any answers without you here.Everything is hard. Noone can move on.We are so hurt. Life is not right without you.Your brothers need you.We need your funy sense of humour with us to make us laugh again,to make life fun again.We just struggle with it where are you,talk to us let us know what it was,we dont get it there was nothing wrong in this family.you told me .I didn,t really think you would do it.I told you things always look better the next dayand how much we love you, we are here for you,such a close family I dont get it .We love you DAMIEN come back to us I think about you every day,the pain is so intense.Time doesnt heal nothing heals you dying not even 21.Aweek before your birthday party on christmas eve how sad.My angel has gone Our family is broken but we are slowly putting the pieces back together WE LOVE YOU FOREVER and ever

Posted by nelly carroll from bundeena on Thursday, October 02, 2008 14:56

I lost my 20 year old baby brother Peter Scott in 2003 to suicide.
You were such a beautiful soul, and every day I thank god for the 20 years that I had with you!
I believe that you must have been in so much pain to do what you did and now you are at peace...
I know you did what you had to do, and I remember that I was lucky enough to hug you and tell you that I loved you the last day that I saw you. You came to me for a reason, I know that now... and I want you to know that I dont blame myself anymore for leaving that day...
I have been lucky that you have come to me in my dreams and that we have talked and laughed.
There is not a day goes by that I dont think of you.
I love you and miss you little brother!!! I look forward to seeing you again one day! x x x
Lots of love your sister Lise x

Posted by Lisa Marsden from Dee Why on Thursday, October 02, 2008 11:16

hi brenden its mum its breaking our hearts not having you here i just want my phone to ring and hear whats for dinner or pick me up just anything i so much want to be able to ring you we dont know how to go on with our lives without you in it we dont know how to cope your suppose to be here only if you had come to us we could have helped you somehow im so sorry for what happened to you ill never forgive myself we are never going to have christmas again it just wont be the same anymore i just want to forget all thoses holidays easter christmas ill ever be able to buy you a easter egg again or make you a chocolate bag for christmas please help me cope im dying inside and we just dont know how we are goning handle the rest of our lives with out you if only i had been awake when you came home ill never forgive myself for that i know we had our fights and stuff but we really do love with all our hearts i have to go now i hope you read this all our love your mum and dad love you xxxxxxxxx

Posted by carol and garry mum and dad from sydney on Thursday, October 02, 2008 09:24

Our beautiful son Brenden
When motherhood called one day and blest us with a son we held you close we watched you walk and then we saw you run.
Days went quick and time went by and you became a man.
Perfection was not ours to keep and god he took your hand.
For heaven called the time had come with angels you will stand
LOVE DAD AND MUM

brenden james wilcox Memorial site
http://www.bebo.com/BrendenJamesW made by jo stanley

http://www.bebo.com/Profile.jsp?MyProfile=Y made by me his mum

Posted by carol and garry from sydney on Thursday, October 02, 2008 08:32

I lost my son Dale McClelland to suicide 15 Months ago.Not a day goes by without me thinking of him.There's not a day when I don't cry.The pain and sorrow I feel every day.
I love my son and was so very proud of his accomplishments in his short 23 years of life.
I struggle to continue in my day to day life not knowing why he chose to end his life.
Dale I miss you and love you always
Love Mum xxx

Posted by Kim McClelland from Macquarie Fields on Wednesday, October 01, 2008 19:34