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Edition 4, 2023
Walking into Judy and Allan’s home near Grafton the first thing you notice is a wall of photographs. Happy faces of toddlers, tweens and teens prominently displayed as a symbol that every young life matters here.
The second thing you notice is the unmistakable sounds of children. Ten to be exact, ranging in age from one to 26, including the couple’s four biological children, their adopted daughter, her two biological sisters, their cousin and two foster children.
Over 28 years, the couple has cared for 114 (and counting) children and young people. Starting as long-term carers with the NSW Department of Communities and Justice, they now provide a range of care through Wesley Dalmar, including respite and emergency care, short- and long-term placements and adoption.
Building a family bound by cherished memories
Not believing they could have a family of their own, Judy and Allan were inspired to explore foster care by some friends.
“Once we started, we fell in love with it,” says Judy. “The first day we get a child into care, I take their photo. They can look at the wall and see there’ve been other kids like them who’ve come into our home.
“It’s also our way of having that memory forever – to know they’ve been a part of our lives whether short or long term. It’s a memory to hold onto.”
Having cared for so many children and young people, Judy and Allan converted their three-bedroom home into a five-bedroom home, complete with lots of bunk beds. It’s not necessarily a big house, but the couple say it’s one that works.
Making lifelong connections
Whether it’s attending birthday parties or sporting matches or encouraging others to consider fostering at Grafton’s annual Jacaranda Festival, Judy and Allan’s effort pays off, with many of the children and young people they’ve supported staying in touch after leaving foster care.
“You don’t do it to change the kid,” says Allan. “You do it to try and show them there’s another way to live their lives – one where hopefully they break the cycle and that helps the next generation.”
And, while it isn’t always easy, given each child’s unique circumstances, challenges and gifts, Judy and Allan wouldn’t have it any other way.
“They treat every child like their own,” says Hayley, Case Manager at Wesley Mission’s foster care office in Grafton.
“Their whole house is warm and welcoming because they want their kids to have a great life and will do whatever they need to make sure it happens.”
While some days can feel like a circus, Judy says it’s the small things, like a cuddle or an “I love you” that make it all worth it.
“It’s not all a bed of roses but at the same time, there’s a lot of joy,” she continues. “[And], Wesley Mission, they are so supportive. Nothing’s ever a problem; they’re always willing to help out.”
The couple is keen to let people know that you don’t need a lot of money or a big house to be a foster carer, just a big heart and an open mind.
And as Allan points out, “If somebody’s considering becoming a carer to start with, they’re the right type of people, aren’t they?”
A note from our CEO and Superintendent, Rev Stu Cameron, on our Foster Care Art Exhibition:
Dear Friends,
On December 2nd, we launched our first Foster Care Art Exhibition, an idea brought to life through the creative collaboration of our chaplains, pastors and our Out of Home Care team – along with so many others. Through this collaboration, almost ninety children and young people in our care submitted pieces of art – drawings, paintings, collages – each representing their interpretation of what kindness means to them. Each artwork is accompanied by the artists own words about kindness. Some will make the hardest heart cry. The banner adjacent to our Christmas tree, and the first pieces of art on display, says it well:
‘We hope this exhibition will encourage each child and young person who created an artwork to realise their God-given value and worth as they see the importance we place on their artwork this Christmas.’
The exhibition launch was a highlight of my almost three years leading Wesley Mission. Many of our artists and their carers came as we celebrated their work, as did many of our staff, congregation members, pastors and others. There was food, face painting, a jumping castle. Even Santa made an appearance. Kirsty, a three-time Archibald Prize finalist, also joined us as our guest judge, offering insightful and encouraging feedback on every work submitted. Every artist present was celebrated with a certificate and prize. In short, it was awesome.
After the brief presentation ceremony, I chatted with one of our young people who had submitted artwork. I thanked her for her courage, knowing a tiny bit of the many challenges she has had to overcome in life. She shared with me, ‘I know it’s only a certificate, but this means the world to me.’ I will always treasure that brief conversation.
One of Wesley Mission’s four key strategic directions is ‘Deepening our Word and deed.’ Saturday’s event, and the exhibition itself, is a perfect representation of what this means – a coming together of our congregations and community services to continue the work of Jesus Christ in Word and deed. I am so very grateful for all who brought this idea to life, one that I hope, no, I am sure will become a wonderful new Wesley Christmas tradition for years to come.
Our Foster Care Art Exhibition will be on display all through December. So please, if you have the chance, come in and drink it all in and be blessed by the wisdom, creativity and courage of these remarkable children and young people.
Every blessing,
Rev Stu Cameron
Visit 220 Pitt Street, Sydney to view the artworks of almost 90 children supported by Wesley Dalmar. Artworks will be displayed until December 31st.
Here’s to 2023 – a year of milestones
Can you believe another year has passed? In our first full year without the limitation of Covid-19 restrictions, Wesley Dalmar has gone from strength to strength, and continued to evolve to meet the changing needs of foster care in New South Wales – but we couldn’t have done it without you.
So, what have we achieved together?
This year, Wesley Dalmar Carlingford celebrated its 100-year anniversary and the Dalmar Old Boys & Girls reunion (people who were cared for at Dalmar Carlingford). Opening its doors in 1923, by 1938, the purpose-built site in Carlingford was caring for 150 infants and children. Although Dalmar Carlingford stopped serving as a children’s home in the 1980s, its legacy paved the way for Wesley Dalmar today, now supporting over 650 children and young people in foster care.
We also celebrated the Dove Ballina’s first full year in business. The social enterprise café on the NSW North Coast provides on-the-job training and employment pathways for disadvantaged young people, including those in foster care.
On a broader level, we saw the roll out of the NSW Government’s Your Choice, Your Future program that will invest $100 million in supporting more young people to remain in foster care until they’re 21, as well as a number of aftercare services.
But that’s enough about us. What has our Dalmar community been up to?
Adelaide*, a young person in foster care with Wesley Dalmar Tuggerah, raised over $740 as part of the Pyjama Foundation’s National Pyjama Day, which raises funds to support children and young people in foster care.
She made flyers, reminded students about the event and collected the funds raised from each class on the day. The Wesley Dalmar Tuggerah team donated a further $77 to Adelaide’s fundraiser, bringing her total to over $800.
We also now have a Wesley Dalmar sponsored soccer team in Grafton, and OzTag team on the Central Coast. And we’ll be holding our first Wesley Dalmar art show at our Sydney office in December, featuring artworks by Wesley Dalmar children.
Hayley Kingsley
Wesley Foster Care Case Manager
Grafton Wesley Foster Care
Four years
I work closely with our wonderful carers and their foster children and young people to maintain stability, safety and routine in their homes, and create a warm environment. Some examples include ensuring their medical appointments are up-to-date, they’re involved in the appropriate education and activities and they feel listened to by the adults around them. This is done through regular home visits and phone calls with the carers and the children and young people in their care.
I also support children and young people to maintain connection to their family, through regular visits with mum, dad, sisters, brothers, grandparents and any other extended family. It’s important for our children and young people to maintain this connection, as it helps them form their own identity as they grow.
A significant achievement during my time with Wesley Mission has been watching the Grafton Wesley Foster Care team expand and flourish. When I first began, I would work from a local café, my home or another case manager’s house, as we didn’t have an office. Now, we have an office that is at maximum capacity and we have full caseloads of children and young people that we advocate for. I’m proud to say I’ve been part of this expansion, as it shows Wesley Mission has a strong name within the Grafton community.
In my spare time, I’m a fulltime snack lady or tantrum diffuser to a two-year-old. My partner and I enjoy taking my little girl and our dog, Jill, to the beach or on bike rides. My family is the most important thing to me.
I don’t necessarily have a favourite quote, but I feel like I’m always repeating, “Are you missing a please or thank you?”.
I enjoy online shopping and love waiting for the post to arrive on a weekly basis!
If you’re thinking about becoming a foster carer with Wesley Dalmar, or are curious about getting involved, register for an Online Information Session to find out more and ask your questions.
In the one-hour session you’ll discover:
There will also be an opportunity after the presentation to ask our friendly team your questions.
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